For the next few months, I’m going to provide a series of 12 scenarios that I hope you’ll find thought-provoking.
The intention behind this is to create simple, relevant experiences that are relatable and may “show up” in your day-to-day activities.
Each scenario will display a “before” and “after” comparison, encouraging you to think about how the particular scenario may play a role in your life.
Along with this, I’ll provide some additional thoughts/questions that will support you in your journey towards becoming a masterful communicator.
In all of the examples, the “after” is replaced with “Masterful Communicator”…
Here ya go…
Energy is the operative word in this scenario.
If you’re going through a personal crisis, how willing are you to deal with your challenging emotions?….Versus, ignoring and suppressing them…
Suppressed emotion is the same thing as suppressed energy, and when you choose to NOT deal with it, people pick up on this. There’s a reason the phrase, “that person has really bad energy” exists.
Now, this isn’t to say that you’ll always have positive energy when you choose to deal with your challenging emotions, because shit can get difficult sometimes.
However, by making the effort to deal with them, you create space for positivity, and if you need to compartmentalize things for the time being, you’re far more equipped to be able to do this.
Here’s 3 ways to “deal with your emotions”, or remove stuck energy from your body:
1) Free-Form writing: Whatever is swirling around in your head…get it out! Grab a piece of paper, and pen, and start writing down whatever comes to mind. It doesn’t have to make any sense . Stream of consciousness is fine. Just get your thoughts on paper. And when you’re done, DON’T READ IT. Instead, rip it up, or burn it, and throw it away.
2) Talk to an objective supporter: You’re fortunate if you have friends that you can lean into when you’re feeling misaligned, or upset; however, friends can often “feed the fire”, and take sides with you, in an effort to demonstrate solidarity. While their intentions are good, this can often be counterproductive. I encourage you to find someone who can guide you through the process from an objective lens. Therapist, coach, mentor, etc.
3) Be vulnerable: If you enter into a work meeting, and are going through a difficult time, there’s no harm in saying, “Hey folks, I have some personal stuff going on right now, and am feeling a little distracted (or, stronger emotion…sad, frustrated, confused) as a result. Figure I let you know. Thanks for your understanding.” Or, something to this effect. This level of vulnerability enables you to connect with your colleagues on a deeper level, and ultimately, creates space for a productive meeting.
Next week, I’ll send out scenario #2.
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