Think about all of the storms that are happening in your life right now. I don’t mean actual tornados and hurricanes and tsunamis… 

I mean all of life’s challenges. 

These challenges can come in various forms, such as conflict with colleagues, setbacks at work, feelings of defeat, anxiety, self-loathing, and many others.  

How do you respond to these challenges? Are you resilient and prepared for the storms that lie ahead? 

For long-term success and fulfillment, you must build resilience. Resilience is your ability to recover quickly from setbacks and adapt to change. 

Below, I discuss three ways to build resilience at work. The great news is that these skills also transfer into your personal life. 

If you want to learn more, watch or read below. 

1. Develop Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is understanding what makes you who you are, including your personality, actions, values, beliefs, emotions, and thoughts. 

To prepare for conflict and setbacks, you must know how you typically respond to life’s challenges.

For example, if a manager criticizes your work, you may respond with sadness, anger, frustration, resentment, etc. This is a natural response. 

You must allow yourself to feel these challenging emotions, regardless of what they are, acknowledge that you feel a certain way, and learn to recover from them quickly. 

This is how you become resilient; self-awareness is the first step to help you get there.

2. Build Trust

Building trust within yourself is essential in preparing for conflict. This internal trust teaches you how to respond to life’s challenges and create a more symbiotic relationship with the world around you.

When you feel frustrated with your boss, colleague, or whomever else triggers you, you must take responsibility for your actions and responses.

One way is to learn how to work with your energy effectively by leaning into activities and practices, such as walking, running, working out, breathing, and meditation, that help you calm down and get your nervous system back in balance.

Another way to build trust is to become aware of your blind spots. You may be unaware of these parts of yourself, but others can see quite clearly. Perhaps you could delegate more, be a better listener, or practice self-compassion. Learn about these things. Ask others to give you feedback.

Lastly, take some time to learn about your fears and insecurities. Do you often compare yourself to others? Are you scared to speak your truth? Are you holding onto “mistakes” from the past? Learning about your fears is also crucial in building trust. The more you know about your worries, the more resilient you become.    

3. Practice Kindness

Kindness is essential in building resilience.

Change is not easy, and setbacks will happen along the way. You must give yourself kindness throughout the process.

If you get mad when things aren’t going perfectly or constantly second-guess yourself, it’s time to start practicing kindness.

Remind yourself that you’re learning and growing, and mistakes will happen. You will always be your worst critic, so it’s important to remember that every experience you’ve had is an opportunity to learn and grow.  

“I should have done this” and “I should have done that” will keep you in the past and in a perpetual state of self-loathing.

When you forgive yourself for any judgments “I’m not good enough” you’re holding against yourself,  you tap into your creativity, become more trustworthy and build resilience.

The kindness you give yourself amidst your journey makes the difference between suffering and thriving.

Developing self-awareness, trust, and practicing kindness are three ways to boost your resilience at work.

Remember, you’re measured by your resilience and how you respond to conflict, not the conflict itself.

Building a resilient foundation within yourself is essential to manifesting your desired outcomes!

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Or,  if your team or organization wants to build stronger, more resilient teams, check out our Art of masterful communication group coaching program.

I’d love to work with you! 

Cheers, 

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