Last week, I suggested that if you want to manifest the things that you desire in your life, you have to take a closer look at your behaviors and patterns…..
Taking a closer look requires you to be vulnerable, embrace humility and examine the parts of you that are holding onto the “old”, ineffective ways of doing things.
This is all good; however, doesn’t tell you HOW to examine the old, ineffective stuff.
So, for today, I’m going to give you 5 ways to do this:
1.) Self-reflection – Think back on an experience/situation that didn’t go well for you. It doesn’t have to be a major disaster. Observe that experience. Don’t analyze, dissect or judge it. Just observe.
What skills, or human attributes, may have created a different outcome? Perhaps you have an opportunity to cultivate a new skill set moving forward.
2.) Feedback – Ask the people around you, “When am I at my best?”, “When am I not at my best?” See what they say. This a great opportunity to NOT take things personally.
3.) Get present during uncomfortable situations – When you’re uncomfortable in a situation, move towards it rather than away from it.
For example, if you’re in a conversation with someone and that person is driving you nuts, or making your blood boil, this is an opportunity to stop and get present with how you’re feeling.
If you’re feeling agitated, chances are pretty good that the other person is triggering old, unresolved “stuff” inside of you and bringing this “stuff” to the surface.
4.) Notice when you’re “pushing” versus “flowing” – In most cases when you “push” through stuff, it’s because you’re overcompensating for something that feels uncomfortable.
Perhaps it’s because you’re scared of speaking your mind, or don’t like engaging in conflict, etc and rather than facing these things head on, and establishing a “flow” state, you choose to plow forward and respond from a place of avoidance.
5.) Listen for your “headtrash” – Headtrash is the stories you tell yourself, about yourself, that reside in your head.
What type of judgements are you holding against yourself if you’re not doing the 5 things that I mention in this newsletter?
Are you telling yourself that you’re not good enough?
Are you “shoulding” on yourself”?…I should have done this, or I should have done that.
When you become aware of the conversations taking place in your head, you have an opportunity to learn and grow from them.
Choose one, or a few, of the 5 items listed above to focus on for this week. How will this impact your life?
Curious to hear which one, or few, you choose and how you’ll hold yourself accountable.
Love to hear from you.
Have a great rest of your week.
P.S. I want to give my good friend, Christie Mann, credit for the term “headtrash”. Thanks for letting me borrow this one, Christie.