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Do You Know Your Patterns

By June 20, 2019April 17th, 2023No Comments

In last week’s blog post, I wrote about compassion.

One of the things that I left out of the newsletter, is my belief that compassion is one of the best skills that you can develop as a leader.

The reason is as follows….

When you’re compassionate with yourself, you’re more inclined to be compassionate with others, and when you demonstrate compassion for others, you build trust through the process.

And when you build trust, good things tend to happen.

Being able to establish this type of relationship with others takes work and commitment….AND…this is the type of work that enables you to become a more effective leader.

Often times people will ask me in very simple terms, “how do I become a better leader?”

My belief is that there are many skill sets, qualities and attributes that make someone an effective leader; however, the process of becoming a better leader always starts in the same place….

It starts by becoming more familiar with the patterns and behaviors that hold you back.

Here’s a list of 8 common ones that I’ve run into in my own life, and witnessed in others…


  • Continually run late for appointments.
  • Value being right over being effective.
  • Say “yes” when you’d like to say “no”.
  • Don’t see or realize your impact on others.
  • Become impatient when changes don’t happen fast enough.
  • Don’t stand up for yourself and avoid conflict.
  • Accomplish what you want and then throw it away because you don’t deserve it.
  • Settle for less because you feel you’re not worth it.

Do any of these sound familiar to you?

If so, take note of it……Learn “WHY” you do this.

In this week’s video, I talk more about “why” it’s critical to better understand your patterns and behaviors……

And, I talk a little bit about our upcoming Expand Into Greatness program and how we’re going to help the attendees better understand their negative patterns and behaviors as a tool to create new patterns and behaviors that will lead to major breakthroughs in their lives. Check it out!

As I speak about in the video, learning “why” you do certain things is a process and sometimes the answer isn’t as clear as you’d like it to be.
Sometimes it requires a little bit of digging.

Sometimes you may have to take a trip down memory lane and learn about the origin of some of your behaviors and patterns.

Regardless of your path, I encourage you to learn about them.

Please let me know if one, or some, of these ring true for you, and if you ever want to have a conversation about them, I’d love to connect with you further on it.


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